JustJo (106622274) wrote:lmao Rod!! Sounds good I love me some Zaaa!!!! all those activities sound like a blast-may need a boost once in the rollerskates...we use to have this awesome rink-disco lights music and food going on all the while we would roller skate..I think I still got it-we won't know til afterwards or the next day hahaha! Love those ideas & both being crazy-the chit we could come up with

I think we would have a blast and get into so much trouble We'll even go to the Wal-Mart and ride the bicycles around the store and honk the honkey horn at people I do that at the Wal-Mart in my town and the manager has come to accept the fact I do it that he doesn't say anything to me anymore Get better soon

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:

Pulse (126579776) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:How are you guys????
I can't get myself to spend some time playing YW i find myself logging out after less than 5 minutes and i have no idea why i resent this game now when i used to love it a year ago.

Over the years I've found the feeling you feel comes and goes. The more hours you spend in Yo, the harsher the feeling comes on you when you play. I've learned to just get off the game, except to pick my coins. No shopping. No decorating. No trading. And especially no socializing. I've learned that the feeling for me is my brain telling me I need a break. Usually after 1-3 weeks I am up for some more, but it all depends on how well I stayed away. I've also learned to give Yo 1-2 hours max when I do play. The 8 hour marathons from 2009 ruined me for a while. So now I only play when its fun, and I avoid it like the plague when it isn't.

It's the socializing part that wore me down, I was constantly surrounded with broken and damaged people that aren't happy with their lives and the more they confided in me the more difficult it became to let them go or avoid hearing them out. Eventually, my system couldn't handle any more sad stories and the whole game atmosphere became a miserable place. Part of this is my fault because i wanted to be everyone's favorite friend and I made way for other people to find me a perfect match to offload their secrets to, sometimes I encountered undeserving and deceptive people, other times it was people who are genuinely suffering and needed someone just to know that they are struggling in life. I wholeheartedly sympathize with everyone's struggles but we all have our own demons, no one is capable of living the "perfect life" it's impossible and against human nature.

Very interesting. You struggle with the same demon many pastors do. Part of being a religious leader is listening to the burdens of people. Part of listening to the heart wrenching truth of some people is that it rubs off on your soul. And part of it rubbing off on your soul is that it can and will wear you out. It is why people limit friendships. It is why people are reluctant to help a charity. It is why people won't look at a homeless person. Getting involved with anyone who is hurting, ultimately means a "transfer of pain" is possible and likely. It can also mean a direct reduction in resources as we try to help. All of this is not what we were designed to be.

I'm not going to preach here because I know how you feel about faith. But I will encourage you. Your heart is in the right place! You will NEVER be wrong for wanting to help a broken person. NEVER. But their salvation and truth comes in the WAY in which we help. Here is the secret - It is not ok to let someone unload on us about their issues, without demanding they be accountable for the fix. We are not a dumping ground for problems. We can listen, but then we have to ask them to identify their solutions. They have to think about what they need to do in order to improve their lot in life. And if their choice is to live with it and complain - then they are toxic and you need to get the hell away from them. You can help fix a PROBLEM - but you will never ever fix a TOXIC person. I call them "serial complainers" or "professional whiners". They don't want to do a damn thing to make things better, but by golly we are going to hear all about it.

At my church we have a food pantry for those who need help. The pantry is not for the serially unemployed. It is not for the weekly trip to feed the kids because I spend grocery money on drugs. It is not for every homeless person to raid. If an individual needs help, they get to make an appointment and come in and talk about it. They get to make their case, develop an action plan to improve their place, and a set a time limit to meet their goals. THEN they get help and they have to come in weekly to talk about where they are in meeting their goals. If no progress is being made, they are cut off. Because the truth about life is that we own where we are and who we are. And it is so easy to grab someone else's life and pull it down with theirs to help them keep floating a little longer. Don't let them pull you down. Teach them to fish, but don't give them your fish.

Pulse (126579776) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:

Pulse (126579776) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:How are you guys????
I can't get myself to spend some time playing YW i find myself logging out after less than 5 minutes and i have no idea why i resent this game now when i used to love it a year ago.

Over the years I've found the feeling you feel comes and goes. The more hours you spend in Yo, the harsher the feeling comes on you when you play. I've learned to just get off the game, except to pick my coins. No shopping. No decorating. No trading. And especially no socializing. I've learned that the feeling for me is my brain telling me I need a break. Usually after 1-3 weeks I am up for some more, but it all depends on how well I stayed away. I've also learned to give Yo 1-2 hours max when I do play. The 8 hour marathons from 2009 ruined me for a while. So now I only play when its fun, and I avoid it like the plague when it isn't.

It's the socializing part that wore me down, I was constantly surrounded with broken and damaged people that aren't happy with their lives and the more they confided in me the more difficult it became to let them go or avoid hearing them out. Eventually, my system couldn't handle any more sad stories and the whole game atmosphere became a miserable place. Part of this is my fault because i wanted to be everyone's favorite friend and I made way for other people to find me a perfect match to offload their secrets to, sometimes I encountered undeserving and deceptive people, other times it was people who are genuinely suffering and needed someone just to know that they are struggling in life. I wholeheartedly sympathize with everyone's struggles but we all have our own demons, no one is capable of living the "perfect life" it's impossible and against human nature.

Very interesting. You struggle with the same demon many pastors do. Part of being a religious leader is listening to the burdens of people. Part of listening to the heart wrenching truth of some people is that it rubs off on your soul. And part of it rubbing off on your soul is that it can and will wear you out. It is why people limit friendships. It is why people are reluctant to help a charity. It is why people won't look at a homeless person. Getting involved with anyone who is hurting, ultimately means a "transfer of pain" is possible and likely. It can also mean a direct reduction in resources as we try to help. All of this is not what we were designed to be.

I'm not going to preach here because I know how you feel about faith. But I will encourage you. Your heart is in the right place! You will NEVER be wrong for wanting to help a broken person. NEVER. But their salvation and truth comes in the WAY in which we help. Here is the secret - It is not ok to let someone unload on us about their issues, without demanding they be accountable for the fix. We are not a dumping ground for problems. We can listen, but then we have to ask them to identify their solutions. They have to think about what they need to do in order to improve their lot in life. And if their choice is to live with it and complain - then they are toxic and you need to get the hell away from them. You can help fix a PROBLEM - but you will never ever fix a TOXIC person. I call them "serial complainers" or "professional whiners". They don't want to do a damn thing to make things better, but by golly we are going to hear all about it.

At my church we have a food pantry for those who need help. The pantry is not for the serially unemployed. It is not for the weekly trip to feed the kids because I spend grocery money on drugs. It is not for every homeless person to raid. If an individual needs help, they get to make an appointment and come in and talk about it. They get to make their case, develop an action plan to improve their place, and a set a time limit to meet their goals. THEN they get help and they have to come in weekly to talk about where they are in meeting their goals. If no progress is being made, they are cut off. Because the truth about life is that we own where we are and who we are. And it is so easy to grab someone else's life and pull it down with theirs to help them keep floating a little longer. Don't let them pull you down. Teach them to fish, but don't give them your fish.

@ Rod.. Nice feedback to Nick

@Nick.. I totally overlooked your post.. I didn't even see it.. sorry. Why don't you add me in game sometime when you're online. Come hang out with me.. we'll chat and go do some crazy crap in YoWorld. You seem very intellectual for your age so I'd enjoy an intellectual conversation with someone. Yes, I actually have an intellectual side to me but I choose not to show it on here. I promise you.. you won't get complaining from me at all. Only laughter, happiness and a lot of twisted humor.. if that's ok. Btw.. pick and choose FRIENDS wisely. If you ever need to vent and want to vent to me.. I give you my word that anything you say to me stays between me and you.. I promise you that. Whether you believe me or not is totally up to you. I want to say more but I have a bad headache today so I'll just leave this right here. Let me know if you wanna add me Nick

@A2B

I would love to add you, why did it take so long to do this?

@Rodster

I read something the other day which says, what you do in your late teens and early 20s dictate who you will be for the rest of your life, and that's equally terrifying and alarming. Being a "shoulder to cry one" is not a disadvantage but it can become a disadvantage if it happens too often. I think we all have our own emotional baggage that we carry with us everywhere we go and eventually it reaches maximum capacity if your system is incapable of flushing out the negative things around you, that's when you snap and crash helplessly.

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:@A2B

I would love to add you, why did it take so long to do this?

@Rodster

I read something the other day which says, what you do in your late teens and early 20s dictate who you will be for the rest of your life, and that's equally terrifying and alarming. Being a "shoulder to cry one" is not a disadvantage but it can become a disadvantage if it happens too often. I think we all have our own emotional baggage that we carry with us everywhere we go and eventually it reaches maximum capacity if your system is incapable of flushing out the negative things around you, that's when you snap and crash helplessly.

Have faith Nick. What you read...I have to agree on. Lots of lessons learned especially in your 20's. In my younger years I used to want to be everyone's friend. I thought the more I had the better. After getting used & abused by quite a few, I learned that it's better to focus on less who give back or as the saying goes, the road goes both ways......As I aged I developed less tolerance for the BS. I still go out of my way to help people, but have better radar now with fake liars versus genuine. I like having strong shoulders, but sometimes I too need one and now know where I can go. Life now that I am older has gotten better...I think the 20's era is a bit overrated......my better years came when I hit 30 and continue now. I think most people can't figure themselves out and what they want to be or do until they hit their 30's so a lot of immaturity figuring that out and hurting others along the way. Yes, everyone has baggage. And sometimes that baggage is hard to let go, but once gone...the positive is easier to see. Life is too short, gotta let it go and move on. Remember, you come first ... you gotta luv yourself before you can luv everyone else. Just my 2 cents, and what I tell my daughters now who are 21 & 20 and dealing with this stuff. I would LUV to repeat my early 30's....any day every day.

JustJo (106622274) wrote:k- so here's the scoop-Imma be in hospital in a couple days,yeah there is free wifi but who knows how good it will work-I will be kinda dope ish-so keep that in mind if I'm on posting.

packing important stuff first like the cell phone,ipad,laptop and a nice extension cord for it to reach the bed ( learned this one ages ago)

still haven't packed clothing-mother nature has been strange-we had like 70 degrees now it's 40 so dunno what the heck to pack-prolly come home looking like im ready for winter and it will be 90+ or it could go the other way-would love some really nice spring weather days.

That will happen once I'm home recovering and can't do much outside-I betcha it will!!

Hope you have a speedy recovery!

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:@A2B

I would love to add you, why did it take so long to do this?

@Rodster

I read something the other day which says, what you do in your late teens and early 20s dictate who you will be for the rest of your life, and that's equally terrifying and alarming. Being a "shoulder to cry one" is not a disadvantage but it can become a disadvantage if it happens too often. I think we all have our own emotional baggage that we carry with us everywhere we go and eventually it reaches maximum capacity if your system is incapable of flushing out the negative things around you, that's when you snap and crash helplessly.

@Nick- The reason it took so long to add is because neither one of us asked the other We both had the opportunity before when I came to one of your forum parties but neither asked. Anyhoo, Purply said some great stuff in her post. In real life I don't even allow myself to be around negative and toxic people. I choose to be around people that wanna have fun, be silly and laugh. And I won't be around anyone who is a bunch of drama and BS. I don't do it in the real world and I be damn if I will be around it in YoWorld. You be sure you pick and choose friends wisely in real life and in Yo. You will come across some good souls that you will find that will be honest, trustworthy, inspire, encourage you to be a better person. Those type of people bring sunshine in your life. If you find those type of people.. keep them for they are hard to find. But of course you're gonna come across the bad souls that lie, are never there for you when you need them, and just drain the ever living energy outta of you. Those people you need to let go of.

Here's something my granny use to tell me.. "Be picky with who you invest your time in. Wasted time is worse than wasted money." Send me a message on forums when you'd like to add and we'll meet up. I'll be on and off here today

Allergic2BS (135815676) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:@A2B

I would love to add you, why did it take so long to do this?

@Rodster

I read something the other day which says, what you do in your late teens and early 20s dictate who you will be for the rest of your life, and that's equally terrifying and alarming. Being a "shoulder to cry one" is not a disadvantage but it can become a disadvantage if it happens too often. I think we all have our own emotional baggage that we carry with us everywhere we go and eventually it reaches maximum capacity if your system is incapable of flushing out the negative things around you, that's when you snap and crash helplessly.

@Nick- The reason it took so long to add is because neither one of us asked the other We both had the opportunity before when I came to one of your forum parties but neither asked. Anyhoo, Purply said some great stuff in her post. In real life I don't even allow myself to be around negative and toxic people. I choose to be around people that wanna have fun, be silly and laugh. And I won't be around anyone who is a bunch of drama and BS. I don't do in the real world and I be damn if I will be around it YoWorld. You be sure you pick and choose friends wisely in real life and in Yo. You will come across some good souls that you will find that will be honest, trustworthy, inspire, encourage you to be a better person. Those type of people bring sunshine in your life. If you find those type of people.. keep them for they are hard to find. But of course you're gonna come across the bad souls that lie, are never there for you when you need them, and just drain the ever living energy outta of you. Those people you need to let go of.

Here's something my granny use to tell me.. "Be picky with who you invest your time in. Wasted time is worse than wasted money." Send me a message on forums when you'd like to add and we'll meet up. I'll be on and off here today

Sometimes you are too smart for your own good.

I also follow the "A2BS theory" of Yo people management. If people are a pile of negative nelly, I'm just not in Yo to engage with that. That doesn't mean I don't mind discussing real life, it just means if someone is constantly an "Eeyore", I will eventually stop allowing their clouds to block my sun. For me this place is about fun and nonsense. I'm not here to be someone's therapist.

Pulse (126579776) wrote:

Allergic2BS (135815676) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:@A2B

I would love to add you, why did it take so long to do this?

@Rodster

I read something the other day which says, what you do in your late teens and early 20s dictate who you will be for the rest of your life, and that's equally terrifying and alarming. Being a "shoulder to cry one" is not a disadvantage but it can become a disadvantage if it happens too often. I think we all have our own emotional baggage that we carry with us everywhere we go and eventually it reaches maximum capacity if your system is incapable of flushing out the negative things around you, that's when you snap and crash helplessly.

@Nick- The reason it took so long to add is because neither one of us asked the other We both had the opportunity before when I came to one of your forum parties but neither asked. Anyhoo, Purply said some great stuff in her post. In real life I don't even allow myself to be around negative and toxic people. I choose to be around people that wanna have fun, be silly and laugh. And I won't be around anyone who is a bunch of drama and BS. I don't do in the real world and I be damn if I will be around it YoWorld. You be sure you pick and choose friends wisely in real life and in Yo. You will come across some good souls that you will find that will be honest, trustworthy, inspire, encourage you to be a better person. Those type of people bring sunshine in your life. If you find those type of people.. keep them for they are hard to find. But of course you're gonna come across the bad souls that lie, are never there for you when you need them, and just drain the ever living energy outta of you. Those people you need to let go of.

Here's something my granny use to tell me.. "Be picky with who you invest your time in. Wasted time is worse than wasted money." Send me a message on forums when you'd like to add and we'll meet up. I'll be on and off here today

Sometimes you are too smart for your own good.

I also follow the "A2BS theory" of Yo people management. If people are a pile of negative nelly, I'm just not in Yo to engage with that. That doesn't mean I don't mind discussing real life, it just means if someone is constantly an "Eeyore", I will eventually stop allowing their clouds to block my sun. For me this place is about fun and nonsense. I'm not here to be someone's therapist.

You didn't notice I left out a few words in my post Oh all people I thought you'd notice I've gotta fix that. I can be smart but choose not to let all my smarts out. Ain't nobody needs to know my knowledge of smarts This place will always be about fun, laughter and nonsense to me. I don't care where its at.. I'll swarm to it like bee's on honey

I logged in specifically to add you but the game is underground maintenance.

I wanted to add this to what I said above.. This is Allergic2BS's secret to waking up EVERYDAY and having a super duper day. I promise you if you'll do this your day will be awesome. When I get up every morning.. I wake up blessed that I got another day at life, I meditate.. it clears my mind for the day until lunch time anyway then my brain gets fogged and goes into a blonde corn maze , I'm thankful I have a job that I absolutely love, I'm in good health, That my family is in good health, My car is paid for, I have shelter (a home), I have food and my legs still work for me to dance because I love dancing. When nothing fun is going on I will entertain myself and people will look at me like I'm some whack job but ya know what.. they can think I'm crazy all they want because I'm having fun. When I'm at work I sing and dance.. I can't carry a tune in the bucket but it doesn't matter.. I'm having fun. We all never know when our last days on earth is done so while I'm here.. I'm gonna be silly, crazy and have s!@#tons of fun. And I don't give a rat's a!@ if someone thinks I'm crazy because at least I'm being me and not being fake

Allergic2BS (135815676) wrote:I wanted to add this to what I said above.. This is Allergic2BS's secret to waking up EVERYDAY and having a super duper day. I promise you if you'll do this your day will be awesome. When I get up every morning.. I wake up blessed that I got another day at life, I meditate.. it clears my mind for the day until lunch time anyway then my brain gets fogged and goes into a blonde corn maze , I'm thankful I have a job that I absolutely love, I'm in good health, That my family is in good health, My car is paid for, I have shelter (a home), I have food and that my legs still work for me to dance because I love dancing. When nothing fun is going on I will entertain myself and people will look at me like I'm some whack job but ya know what.. they can think I'm crazy all they want because I'm having fun. When I'm at work I sing and dance.. I can't carry a tune in the bucket but it doesn't matter.. I'm having fun. We all never know when our last days on earth is done so while I'm here.. I'm gonna be silly and crazy. And I don't give a rat's a!@ if someone thinks I'm crazy because at least I'm being me and not being fake

My real life is perfectly "fine", at least by my standards... I'm very quiet in real life, I don't speak unless spoken to and even then, it's hard to get me to say much.

The problem here is when someone tells me for example that they had a creepy childhood experience and it's making them depressed, the conversation will end eventually at some point, I log out or get busy doing something else on my computer but now my mind is wrecking itself trying to make sense of it all, why did it happen, she didn't deserve this, why is life so unfair and this could go on for weeks and not all of it is because I care so much but i'm in constant struggle with the meaning of life and why it's so unfair. It makes my blood boil when I see someone battling depression because of incidents they had nothing to do with, or because society is so judgmental and unforgiving.

I always admired your care-free attitude, you're a delight to have around.

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:

Allergic2BS (135815676) wrote:I wanted to add this to what I said above.. This is Allergic2BS's secret to waking up EVERYDAY and having a super duper day. I promise you if you'll do this your day will be awesome. When I get up every morning.. I wake up blessed that I got another day at life, I meditate.. it clears my mind for the day until lunch time anyway then my brain gets fogged and goes into a blonde corn maze , I'm thankful I have a job that I absolutely love, I'm in good health, That my family is in good health, My car is paid for, I have shelter (a home), I have food and that my legs still work for me to dance because I love dancing. When nothing fun is going on I will entertain myself and people will look at me like I'm some whack job but ya know what.. they can think I'm crazy all they want because I'm having fun. When I'm at work I sing and dance.. I can't carry a tune in the bucket but it doesn't matter.. I'm having fun. We all never know when our last days on earth is done so while I'm here.. I'm gonna be silly and crazy. And I don't give a rat's a!@ if someone thinks I'm crazy because at least I'm being me and not being fake

My real life is perfectly "fine", at least by my standards... I'm very quiet in real life, I don't speak unless spoken to and even then, it's hard to get me to say much.

The problem here is when someone tells me for example that they had a creepy childhood experience and it's making them depressed, the conversation will end eventually at some point, I log out or get busy doing something else on my computer but now my mind is wrecking itself trying to make sense of it all, why did it happen, she didn't deserve this, why is life so unfair and this could go on for weeks and not all of it is because I care so much but i'm in constant struggle with the meaning of life and why it's so unfair. It makes my blood boil when I see someone battling depression because of incidents they had nothing to do with, or because society is so judgmental and unforgiving.

I always admired your care-free attitude, you're a delight to have around.

Sometimes you scare me with how similar we are in some respects. "Trying to make sense of it all" is what drove me down the path I went down. Why did a man I knew growing up who seemed to do it all right, suddenly get cancer and die at 34? Why did the God he claimed to serve leave him to die? Why did one of my friends have a step dad who beat him into the hospital? Where was God for him? Why does one family suffer while another does not? What is fair about that? What about the kids who are abused? The women and men who destroy each other? What is fair about anything in life? It is a dark tunnel to be stuck in. I know. It will make you despondent, detached, and demoralized. It is the source of all fear and anger.

I wish I had the answer. I wish I could share with you the path to enlightenment. I wish I had a magic wand to make it all go away. But I don't have any of that. What I did come to realize on my journey was that life is exactly what people make of it. Bad stuff happens. Good stuff happens. "The rain falls on the just and the unjust". We can't control the world around us. We can't fix the hurts or heal the hearts. People either melt, become monsters, or turn into survivors. And I've learned that we are all survivors in some way. We have fought through our demons to have one more chance at hope. One more chance to "win". There's a reason a certain book tells us to "fight the good fight". It is the core of the secret to surviving. No one gets out without scars. No one. It is what we do after the scars that matters.....

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:I logged in specifically to add you but the game is underground maintenance.

I will be on forums for about 30 minutes if ya wanna add me.. if I don't catch ya today hopefully we can meet up soon

purply-thank you-sorry for getting back so late-checking out new theme -doing challenges -getting stuff together for A2B's challenge..have to say I been having tons of fun trying to get things together even been laughing my ass off doing it so I hope I'm doing it right..for now I'm busy on this and just jumping on and off n getting rest in between all the yocrazy stufffff

JustJo (106622274) wrote::hug: purply-thank you-sorry for getting back so late-checking out new theme -doing challenges -getting stuff together for A2B's challenge..have to say I been having tons of fun trying to get things together even been laughing my ass off doing it so I hope I'm doing it right..for now I'm busy on this and just jumping on and off n getting rest in between all the yocrazy stufffff

Glad you’re better! Hey what challenge are you talking about that A2BS is hosting? Hope to see what you’re talking about it sounds like fun and I’m always up to a good laugh.

think you found it purply-its on the Wishlists, Giveaways, and YoFan Events & Contests page!

finishing those up and doing some posts before having a nap.

@A2B-I still not sure if I'm doing them right and it don't matter as I'm having a blast with them-hubby hears me laughing at the comp all by myself and thinks I'm crazy!!

JustJo (106622274) wrote::D think you found it purply-its on the Wishlists, Giveaways, and YoFan Events & Contests page!

finishing those up and doing some posts before having a nap.

@A2B-I still not sure if I'm doing them right and it don't matter as I'm having a blast with them-hubby hears me laughing at the comp all by myself and thinks I'm crazy!!

All ya gotta do is dress me up as a Superhero or Villian or both and give me a name. I've got an outfit and name for me I want to post but I'm not Well if he thinks you're crazy.. you're doing something right I had a co-worker at work yesterday tell me that after having to put up with me.. she's going to go get therapy You have a great weekend.. I'm off in a second to go roller skating. It's time to get my groove thang on

ahh you're on your way-awesome way to enjoy the weekend-I was gone grocery shopping-saturdays are the big shopping day here..will up load as soon as I'm finished the outfits! Have a blast with your groove thang gurl!!!

I hope you're enjoying your weekend JustJo What did you do this weekend.. if you don't mind me asking? I went grocery shopping yesterday and bought a 10lb box of bacon for 19.99.. I couldn't pass that deal up. I'm gonna bag them suckers up and freeze them and I'll have bacon all year long. I've gotta go get cleaned up in a bit.. gotta go give daddy a big ole hug, his gift and wish him Happy Father's Day and then go put some flowers on my grandpaws grave