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JeNNy
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Thu Jul 18, 2019 3:32 am
I don't know if this is just me, but I randomly think about what's going to happen when I die. It's impossible to fathom what's going to happen after you die, and I start getting small panic attacks thinking about my death. Like what's going to happen when I die? Is it like I'm sleeping, but literally forever? Do I reincarnate to something else? Is there an afterlife? I think I have Thanatophobia and it's honestly annoying because this phobia links to everything in my life. For instance, I'm scared of cable cars because I feel like I'm going to fall and die. I'm scared of bugs because I think I might die when I get bitten. I'm scared of getting diseases, so when people cough or sneeze around me I get so paranoid. And yes, I'm also a hypochondriac...

Am I crazy or do other people relate in some way? What do you guys think about death? Do you guys think there's an afterlife? I have so many questions, yet none can be answered... :eh:

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Thu Jul 18, 2019 7:09 am
You only Thanatophobic if it stops you from living.
Its a common condition to think yourself into panic attacks on the subject But if your fear of dying stops you from leaving the house then its a problem. The real fear is actually related to lose of control Because something is inevitably going to happen that you cannot control cannot prepare for and cannot escape
"All men die But not all men live"

JeNNy
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Thu Jul 18, 2019 7:25 am
INSOMNIA (184182673) wrote:You only Thanatophobic if it stops you from living.
Its a common condition to think yourself into panic attacks on the subject But if your fear of dying stops you from leaving the house then its a problem. The real fear is actually related to lose of control Because something is inevitably going to happen that you cannot control cannot prepare for and cannot escape
"All men die But not all men live"

I guess it could be thought that way, but I'm sure my fear of dying is much worse.

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Thu Jul 18, 2019 10:03 am
A lot of people will tell you they know what's going to happen. Some will say you go to heaven, paradise, or some version of that. Others will say nothing happens. Some will say reincarnation. I've heard just about every iteration of it and I say it is all hogwash. I have some ideas, but they are my guesses. Just like everyone else guesses.

The day we were born we were given a clock. Time began to exist for us. One day every one of us runs out of time. And there is no second chance once we do. As I've gotten older, I have learned not spend mental energy on things I cannot control. This is one of those things.

I was faithless for a while. I grew up way too churched and I was angry at people for abusing faith. So I ran. But I wandered back after 2 years of deep study into the original texts and history and archaeology and science. They all roll up into one spot if we really analyze the available data and evidence with an open mind. We just usually don't like to see things that we don't want to see. Pride is an insidious impediment. And I was both prideful and angry.

So now I view death as a doorway. And because of my faith, I do recognize and can appreciate what I think will happen. It will be very interesting to see what the truth of it will be, and I do not fear it whatever it looks like. After all, I don't have a choice......

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CyberPunK
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Thu Jul 18, 2019 10:53 am
My Grandpa on his last days wasn't sick or sad or had any major health condition but he used to tell me that he can't wait to gracefully leave without being hospitalized or have his life medically prolonged. Days went by then one day they couldn't wake him up in the morning, he died in his sleep. He always told me he had a good life and now he can't wait to rest, he was so accepting of death and I think that's why he lived a great life. Till his last days, he participated in the lottery regularly and really wanted to win big lol, not so he could take the money for himself but to give it to us to live a better life. My Grandma who outlived him till today tells me that her wish is to die the same way.

I think as we age we become more and more familiar with the idea of death being inevitable. It's ok to think about death but you shouldn't think much about dying because it can create a big wall between wanting to achieve and living a prisoner of a thought that you can change nothing about. Death has been happening since the beginning of life, it will continue to happen regardless if you approve it, like it or want it to happen so you might as well make peace with it. I like it when people say "Rest In Peace" because to me that's what death essentially is, resting in peace, and I'm a huge pro-life person, I love living and i have so much i want to achieve, to me my greatest fear is dying without achieving anything of any worth, not death itself.

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Thu Jul 18, 2019 5:41 pm
As we get older its not just because its familiar its because it becomes less about HEY IM GONNA DIE To more of a How do I die with enough dignity that those left behind arnt traumatized by my passing.
Ive flatlined a few times
Ive been with my Grandmother Mother and Father as they passed Its never easy

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Fri Jul 19, 2019 11:21 am
My dad told me to get ready for eventual major stroke since I had mini stroke before. Sort of preparing for my death or when my family has to send me to a home. Got all my things almost fully sorted like my will, appointing next-of-kin, bank, docs, which home I'll be sent to, cremation company, which location to put my urn. Going to do a booking of the urn slot later. I personally think that if one has dependents, better to prepare for their well-being in the event of some mishap or death. Like make sure they will have money cause some banks will lockup account upon account holder's death until one two years later only release the money but meanwhile poor dependent have to borrow to live.

My family is kind of nonchalant about the whole thing. We know it will happen someday just when don't know. Whether I go before them or after them, they are at peace with that. Meanwhile every day is like a bonus. I eat better, try not to tire self, don't think so much, trying to enjoy life bit more.

JeNNy
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Fri Jul 19, 2019 12:42 pm
Wow, many people are so accepting of their deaths which I’m kind of jealous of. :haha: Guess I’m just a big scaredy-cat. I hope I can be like that too, hopefully as I age...

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Fri Jul 19, 2019 1:34 pm
Ahhh Im not accepting of it LOL
Ill fight for every second I can suck out of life.
People make choices My brother and I had heart attacks within a year of each other I chose to live do incredible things and breath
He chose to worry so much all he could do was sit caught in the cardiac moment until he eventually died proving himself right. Being apprehensive is one thing being so afraid of anything that your catatonic helps no situation.

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Fri Jul 19, 2019 1:50 pm
Ah, death. We all have to get there at some point. I don't know if I'd say I'm afraid of death, but right now I'm definitely not ready for it. There's still so much I want to do and feel like I have to do. My family for sure isn't ready for my death either. The thing I fear most is going in a way that's not peaceful.

As far what I believe happens after death, I can't say that I do know. I grew up Catholic and I am very familiar with what my family and the church believe. I'm still grappling with what I believe and don't believe. I don't know what I think to be true when it comes to life after death. I've searched for answers with an open mind, but it's very difficult to come to a conclusion that I can accept myself. That being said, I still don't think I fear death, I just know that I'm not ready for it at 20 years old.

JeNNy
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Fri Jul 19, 2019 1:54 pm
Richy (3429282) wrote:Ah, death. We all have to get there at some point. I don't know if I'd say I'm afraid of death, but right now I'm definitely not ready for it. There's still so much I want to do and feel like I have to do. My family for sure isn't ready for my death either. The thing I fear most is going in a way that's not peaceful.

As far what I believe happens after death, I can't say that I do know. I grew up Catholic and I am very familiar with what my family and the church believe. I'm still grappling with what I believe and don't believe. I don't know what I think to be true when it comes to life after death. I've searched for answers with an open mind, but it's very difficult to come to a conclusion that I can accept myself. That being said, I still don't think I fear death, I just know that I'm not ready for it at 20 years old.

I agree that there’s so much you can achieve, yet we have limited time. I do hope I can die peacefully with old age...

Faye MNL49
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Sat Jul 20, 2019 1:00 am
i don't fear death... i always think that, if it's my time, it's my time. :haha: idk if it's a culture thing but our family's belief is there is afterlife... like a mixture of mexican and chinese belief. that there is a land a little bit far away from us where our loved ones gather (like in the movie coco), which comes close to us or intersects with us during august? (ghost month ) and my parents believe that it is what causes businesses to feel a little sag in sales because ghosts are lurking so their energies are affecting us or sth like that.

one time, my aunt called home and told my grandma that our deceased grandpa was asking for money to "fix" his house. my granny said, "well last two weeks ago i dreamed about him asking me to come home. i refused because his house was ugly! i told him to fix it first." gave me goosebumps :haha:

im heavily influenced by faith... maybe that's why i'm always calm about death. it's a peaceful realm out there or so i believe... maybe the only thing i fear about death is if i will die slowly and painfully :haha: wish it would be either peaceful, or if painful let it be lightspeed fast. but i dont wana die yet i still got a long loooooooooooong list of things i want to experience

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Sat Jul 20, 2019 1:10 am
Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:My Grandpa on his last days wasn't sick or sad or had any major health condition but he used to tell me that he can't wait to gracefully leave without being hospitalized or have his life medically prolonged. Days went by then one day they couldn't wake him up in the morning, he died in his sleep. He always told me he had a good life and now he can't wait to rest, he was so accepting of death and I think that's why he lived a great life. Till his last days, he participated in the lottery regularly and really wanted to win big lol, not so he could take the money for himself but to give it to us to live a better life. My Grandma who outlived him till today tells me that her wish is to die the same way.

I think as we age we become more and more familiar with the idea of death being inevitable. It's ok to think about death but you shouldn't think much about dying because it can create a big wall between wanting to achieve and living a prisoner of a thought that you can change nothing about. Death has been happening since the beginning of life, it will continue to happen regardless if you approve it, like it or want it to happen so you might as well make peace with it. I like it when people say "Rest In Peace" because to me that's what death essentially is, resting in peace, and I'm a huge pro-life person, I love living and i have so much i want to achieve, to me my greatest fear is dying without achieving anything of any worth, not death itself.


Wow your grandpa sounds awesome :haha: my grandma also died in her sleep... what surprised me when she died was, my dad started clapping while crying. and then said "She graduated from life now. Congratulations Nanay" and then seconds later we were all clapping.

JeNNy
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Sat Jul 20, 2019 3:49 am
Wow, I’m so alone here. :haha:

CyberPunK
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Sat Jul 20, 2019 1:16 pm
yuan (186188531) wrote:
Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:My Grandpa on his last days wasn't sick or sad or had any major health condition but he used to tell me that he can't wait to gracefully leave without being hospitalized or have his life medically prolonged. Days went by then one day they couldn't wake him up in the morning, he died in his sleep. He always told me he had a good life and now he can't wait to rest, he was so accepting of death and I think that's why he lived a great life. Till his last days, he participated in the lottery regularly and really wanted to win big lol, not so he could take the money for himself but to give it to us to live a better life. My Grandma who outlived him till today tells me that her wish is to die the same way.

I think as we age we become more and more familiar with the idea of death being inevitable. It's ok to think about death but you shouldn't think much about dying because it can create a big wall between wanting to achieve and living a prisoner of a thought that you can change nothing about. Death has been happening since the beginning of life, it will continue to happen regardless if you approve it, like it or want it to happen so you might as well make peace with it. I like it when people say "Rest In Peace" because to me that's what death essentially is, resting in peace, and I'm a huge pro-life person, I love living and i have so much i want to achieve, to me my greatest fear is dying without achieving anything of any worth, not death itself.


Wow your grandpa sounds awesome :haha: my grandma also died in her sleep... what surprised me when she died was, my dad started clapping while crying. and then said "She graduated from life now. Congratulations Nanay" and then seconds later we were all clapping.


In a way life and death complement each other, to me, both can be celebrated.

CyberPunK
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Mon Jul 22, 2019 12:26 pm
"Being dead is great, but getting dead..."

George Carlin

Dex
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Tue Jul 23, 2019 6:07 pm
I'm not scared of death, I'm getting up in age, where it could be any day now. What I do, worry about though, is the people I will leave behind when I go. For years, I've been a dad figure to amazing women, I'll proudly claim her as one of my own kids and I have claimed her as one of own since she was a teen (she's an adult now); I'm the one she runs to for advice, I'm the one she always comes to when something goes wrong, and I don't even want to think about how lost she will be when I'm gone. That is the part, that scares me, is leaving people behind when I go. I do, however, hope that when it is, my time to go it's quick and painless.

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Tue Jul 23, 2019 8:54 pm
Mechanic (187755790) wrote:I'm not scared of death, I'm getting up in age, where it could be any day now. What I do, worry about though, is the people I will leave behind when I go. For years, I've been a dad figure to amazing women, I'll proudly claim her as one of my own kids and I have claimed her as one of own since she was a teen (she's an adult now); I'm the one she runs to for advice, I'm the one she always comes to when something goes wrong, and I don't even want to think about how lost she will be when I'm gone. That is the part, that scares me, is leaving people behind when I go. I do, however, hope that when it is, my time to go it's quick and painless.

This would be me as well. I have set and held hands of people I loved dearly as they took their final breath and I know that pain so putting my loved ones in that same pain is what scares me. The only way to try to neutralize that is try to make sure they will be taken care of in whatever way you can arrange before hand.

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Wed Jul 24, 2019 3:14 pm
I always have wanted to go into Paranormal Investigation. I got my inspiration from the TV show Ghost Adventures. I'm looking to buy an SLS camera soon too! :P

JustJo
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Mon Jul 29, 2019 12:28 am
I type this from real experiences I've been up close and personal with someone dying-especially of an incurable disease....It's not dying or death that is the hard part -it is the living with it that is much more fearful.To see things you never thought you would and to deal with issues you never thought you could.
The passage from life can be peaceful and calm.the living in pain and suffering is so very much hard to do-watching and not being able to do anything is so difficult. any disease is ugly no matter what stage of it one has...the passing and at rest is beautiful..it's still more painful to us that have to go on living. :hug:
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