XxCherryxX (164444493) wrote:
ikr? it's like wait for the official wishlist thread that's what i do. In all honestly i never really begged or asked anyone for help i worked my butt off even while i was laying in a bed not being to move when i just came out of a spinal surgery But now i post in the thread and help others

Yep gonna see if BVg can make a new rule..We didn't do it on old forums it doesn't make it OKAY to do here..

Renee (108305250) wrote:I saw a post earlier where someone was asking for an item and I SWEAR I gave that girl that exact item in game yesterday, but I can't prove it, so I kept quiet. She got what she was asking for too. I started to send the gifter a pm to tell her, but she was too quick and then I thought, what if I'm wrong?

Yeah, thats awkward. I guess all you can do is live and learn. I dont often gift random people outside my friends, anymore. I gifted someone from the forum the other day (against my better judgment, lol) and was quite surprised to not get so much as a thank you. I dont do it to get a thank you, mind you - but I always take note when there isn't one and mention that if anyone ever asks me if that person is worth gifting to. I mean really when you see the gift, there is an option to send a quick thank you back right when you see it. Its not like its hard to send a quick thank you back.

that happens to me alot, after a while you get use to it

Nyx (12531218) wrote:

Renee (108305250) wrote:I saw a post earlier where someone was asking for an item and I SWEAR I gave that girl that exact item in game yesterday, but I can't prove it, so I kept quiet. She got what she was asking for too. I started to send the gifter a pm to tell her, but she was too quick and then I thought, what if I'm wrong?

Yeah, thats awkward. I guess all you can do is live and learn. I dont often gift random people outside my friends, anymore. I gifted someone from the forum the other day (against my better judgment, lol) and was quite surprised to not get so much as a thank you. I dont do it to get a thank you, mind you - but I always take note when there isn't one and mention that if anyone ever asks me if that person is worth gifting to.

I really do not believe there are many "NEW" players. I think there is the tried and true players and the ones that left and came back since new ownership.Or ALT accounts.

Autumn Glory (105171200) wrote:Why would you direct beggers to the forums? There are enough here already.

SpadesofWonder (4602029) wrote:that happens to me alot, after a while you get use to it

Nyx (12531218) wrote:

Renee (108305250) wrote:I saw a post earlier where someone was asking for an item and I SWEAR I gave that girl that exact item in game yesterday, but I can't prove it, so I kept quiet. She got what she was asking for too. I started to send the gifter a pm to tell her, but she was too quick and then I thought, what if I'm wrong?

Yeah, thats awkward. I guess all you can do is live and learn. I dont often gift random people outside my friends, anymore. I gifted someone from the forum the other day (against my better judgment, lol) and was quite surprised to not get so much as a thank you. I dont do it to get a thank you, mind you - but I always take note when there isn't one and mention that if anyone ever asks me if that person is worth gifting to.

Its been a while since I gifted anyone outside my FB friends randomly, haha. Normally I stick with them. I guess i'd forgotten. Yeah, I think its really rude, but I think eventually people who never say thank you get known for that and stop getting gifts, thats karma enough.

Nyx (12531218) wrote:

Renee (108305250) wrote:I saw a post earlier where someone was asking for an item and I SWEAR I gave that girl that exact item in game yesterday, but I can't prove it, so I kept quiet. She got what she was asking for too. I started to send the gifter a pm to tell her, but she was too quick and then I thought, what if I'm wrong?

Yeah, thats awkward. I guess all you can do is live and learn. I dont often gift random people outside my friends, anymore. I gifted someone from the forum the other day (against my better judgment, lol) and was quite surprised to not get so much as a thank you. I dont do it to get a thank you, mind you - but I always take note when there isn't one and mention that if anyone ever asks me if that person is worth gifting to. I mean really when you see the gift, there is an option to send a quick thank you back right when you see it. Its not like its hard to send a quick thank you back.

Ugh...
I know we are supposed to gift and not expect anything in return, but I DO expect a simple thank you. 2 words...that's it. I don't think that's too unrealistic an expectation at all.
I'd put this person on that list too.

Chris YWD (183671403) wrote:

XxCherryxX (164444493) wrote:
ikr? it's like wait for the official wishlist thread that's what i do. In all honestly i never really begged or asked anyone for help i worked my butt off even while i was laying in a bed not being to move when i just came out of a spinal surgery But now i post in the thread and help others

Yep gonna see if BVg can make a new rule..We didn't do it on old forums it doesn't make it OKAY to do here..

yes.

Kivalina (10856855) wrote:I liked helping those I thought were new till they come back wanting more and more.I am not scum.I just was doing things I have seen lot suggest we do to see if they are truly new and you all are acting like I am the horriblest person in the world.I have never asked for nothing here,NEVER begged . I rarely even get gifts but gift lots.I have given millions coins away .. I tell them about forums cause I seen where someone said not many know about forums if they are new .Now can you please stop trashing me.

What??? No one is trashing you at all. Merely pointing out that you post a LOT of threads in the exactly same vein (maybe you're not aware of this?) and you seem to have the exactly same consequences from doing so every. single. time, and offering ways that maybe you might be able to still give that gives you more of a response you seem to be looking for out of it. *smh*

Kivalina (10856855) wrote:I liked helping those I thought were new till they come back wanting more and more.I am not scum.I just was doing things I have seen lot suggest we do to see if they are truly new and you all are acting like I am the horriblest person in the world.I have never asked for nothing here,NEVER begged . I rarely even get gifts but gift lots.I have given millions coins away .. I tell them about forums cause I seen where someone said not many know about forums if they are new .Now can you please stop trashing me.

I like that you believe in goodness. I don't believe the 'scum' remark was directed at you; rather those that try to take advantage of nice people. Do what makes you happy. You are far from horrible for doing that.

Kivalina (10856855) wrote:I liked helping those I thought were new till they come back wanting more and more.I am not scum.I just was doing things I have seen lot suggest we do to see if they are truly new and you all are acting like I am the horriblest person in the world.I have never asked for nothing here,NEVER begged . I rarely even get gifts but gift lots.I have given millions coins away .. I tell them about forums cause I seen where someone said not many know about forums if they are new .Now can you please stop trashing me.

Kivalina, no one has trashed you or called you names. You have posted many times on the forum how disappointed or hurt you are over the behavior of the people you try to help. It is nice that you want to be so giving, but if you repeatedly engage the same type of people over and over, you will get the same results, which obviously distress you.

You say you hate begging, but you keep going to begging events. Why not try the people having cheap sales. Go buy something from them and over pay or put gifts in the trade box. You still can make someone's day without enabling the beggers. Why do you think they keep making those events? Because people show up. You are not going to change who they are by giving them advice. Real new players are not making those events. You can also check out trading, gift someone something they are looking to buy if you have it. I guarantee they will appreciate it far more than the events you keep going to.

These are merely suggestions. Take them as you will, but if you keep doing the same things over and over and get the same negative responses over and over, it is time to change your behavior. Good luck

I have one rule of gifting. If I recognize their name (on forum), I will gift them as best as I can. If they're someone I don't recognize, I either don't gift, or gift cheaply. I feel bad because there may be genuine new players needing help, but if they were really interested in the game, they would post in more sections other than wishlist. Then I could get to know them and trust them!

CooLidge (181519357) wrote:

Kivalina (10856855) wrote:I liked helping those I thought were new till they come back wanting more and more.I am not scum.I just was doing things I have seen lot suggest we do to see if they are truly new and you all are acting like I am the horriblest person in the world.I have never asked for nothing here,NEVER begged . I rarely even get gifts but gift lots.I have given millions coins away .. I tell them about forums cause I seen where someone said not many know about forums if they are new .Now can you please stop trashing me.

I like that you believe in goodness. I don't believe the 'scum' remark was directed at you; rather those that try to take advantage of nice people. Do what makes you happy. You are far from horrible for doing that.

No, it certainly was not. It was directed at the very same people the OP was venting about. I think those kind of people ARE scummy aspects of the game.

TheRealHMcCoy (169959644) wrote:I have one rule of gifting. If I recognize their name (on forum), I will gift them as best as I can. If they're someone I don't recognize, I either don't gift, or gift cheaply. I feel bad because there may be genuine new players needing help, but if they were really interested in the game, they would post in more sections other than wishlist. Then I could get to know them and trust them!

I think thats a really wise approach.

If you don't like them, quit enabling them.

Pretty simple.

TheRealHMcCoy (169959644) wrote:I have one rule of gifting. If I recognize their name (on forum), I will gift them as best as I can. If they're someone I don't recognize, I either don't gift, or gift cheaply. I feel bad because there may be genuine new players needing help, but if they were really interested in the game, they would post in more sections other than wishlist. Then I could get to know them and trust them!

I really like this post.
That's a great way to go about it I think.

Actually what I was trying to say is I caught someone with an Alt.And things have went from that to someone saying I am over reacting maybe I do I don't know.But if I do then I apologize.I have been known to do that. Then someone said something about beggars.Yes I do go to these cause I figure If they are really new telling them HOW to play will help.But when I get cursed I know they are fake. So yes some of what has been said made me feel like I was being trashed

okay I am speechless as well

Kivalina (10856855) wrote:Actually what I was trying to say is I caught someone with an Alt.And things have went from that to someone saying I am over reacting maybe I do I don't know.But if I do then I apologize.I have been known to do that. Then someone said something about beggars.Yes I do go to these cause I figure If they are really new telling them HOW to play will help.But when I get cursed I know they are fake. So yes some of what has been said made me feel like I was being trashed

And are you still gonna go back to these events?