As a child, I never imagined that all of the real monsters in the world would be human - Mobeen Hakeem

I'd like to take a minute of your time and share some words about something truly horrifying. They walk among us. They look like us. They smell like us. They sound like us. But they wear masks, sooo many different masks. They look like husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, teens, police, protesters, politicians, business people, teachers, religious leaders & followers, and a million other disguises. But they are not what they seem. They've been damaged. Life has dealt them blows that they've absorbed and then scarred over. The scarring has allowed their pain to fester and warp them. They learned how to cope, but they never really healed. They've patched a life out of the fragments they have left, but their brokenness and fear drive them to do things of which only monsters are capable. Their spirits are dead and the darkness in that pit overwhelms them at times. And then it comes.........crawling out from behind the mask to wreak havoc on everyone and everything around them.

The monsters have so many faces when they appear. They kill. They hurt. They war. They rage. They destroy. The monsters rarely even know they are monsters. When faced with the evidence of their evil, they often discount it and hide from it, allowing the shame of it all to feed their monster to even greater evil. And the only thing that can stop their monster.......is them.

If you have ever lived or known someone dealing with their with a monster, then you know exactly what I'm writing about. It's horrifying. The wounds they create are devastating. They hurt adults, children, and animals without conscience. And usually they do far more damage in secret with their words, rather than physical damage, than we'll ever understand.

Monsters need help from themselves. If you know someone who is suffering from a monster, please, get help. I'm begging you. If you are the victim, get help now. If you fight your own monsters, find the courage to get to someone who is trained to help you slay them. And most importantly, if you suspect someone is fighting a monster or being chased by one, either ask them about it or tell a professional monster killer about it.

I know hundreds of people who have slain their monsters. They are free. They've ripped up the scars and bled out their wounds. They've faced their pain and live free from torment.......and so do the people who love them.

I can't make anyone do anything. I can't promise it will be easy. But what I can promise is that if nothing is done, the monsters only get worse and more powerful. They never willingly go away. Take action. Be a hero. Save someone's life. Be a monster killer.

Relatable. I learned that the real monsters I should be worried about ain't under the bed but where indeed humans when I was 5... And I've met so many monsters after that too

I know all about human monsters. Dealt with them when i was a minor, and sadly they were people that was supposed to protect children.

CountryDude89 (11877186) wrote:I know all about human monsters. Dealt with them when i was a minor, and sadly they were people that was supposed to protect children.

I don't even want to start about monsters I have seen...What gives me satisfaction, I DID save some lives and I still do, behind "the scenes".

I thank my monsters for the person I am today.

It's been a long path, and I work on it every single day, but they taught me who I don't want to be and what life I don't want to live.
They hurt me in ways that I don't wish to anyone, but I also learned from them.

Healing from them has taken me at least 15 years, and I will keep healing every day of my life.
I just choose to live as a content person, not as a victim.

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:I thank my monsters for the person I am today.

It's been a long path, and I work on it every single day, but they taught me who I don't want to be and what life I don't want to live.
They hurt me in ways that I don't wish to anyone, but I also learned from them.

Healing from them has taken me at least 15 years, and I will keep healing every day of my life.
I just choose to live as a content person, not as a victim.

I am still learning how to heal... Especially how to forgive... Knowing I will never forget...

Denna (10205906) wrote:

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:I thank my monsters for the person I am today.

It's been a long path, and I work on it every single day, but they taught me who I don't want to be and what life I don't want to live.
They hurt me in ways that I don't wish to anyone, but I also learned from them.

Healing from them has taken me at least 15 years, and I will keep healing every day of my life.
I just choose to live as a content person, not as a victim.

I am still learning how to heal... Especially how to forgive... Knowing I will never forget...

I've had one monster but he will never be forgiven, and I'm not a bit sorry.

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

Denna (10205906) wrote:

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:I thank my monsters for the person I am today.

It's been a long path, and I work on it every single day, but they taught me who I don't want to be and what life I don't want to live.
They hurt me in ways that I don't wish to anyone, but I also learned from them.

Healing from them has taken me at least 15 years, and I will keep healing every day of my life.
I just choose to live as a content person, not as a victim.

I am still learning how to heal... Especially how to forgive... Knowing I will never forget...

I've had one monster but he will never be forgiven, and I'm not a bit sorry.

I don't think you have to forgive or forget your monsters, you have to accept and love yourself. You owe it to yourself and no one else.

I had one of those too. She died and I really hope hell exists and she's burning there.

We're taught that we have to be the bigger person, and not hurt other people's feelings and all that crap. That makes us forget about ourselves and IMO, it shouldn't be.

I've become colder and moved away from people I love because they don't add to my life. I don't think of them anymore, I think of myself and that's all.

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

Denna (10205906) wrote:

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:I thank my monsters for the person I am today.

It's been a long path, and I work on it every single day, but they taught me who I don't want to be and what life I don't want to live.
They hurt me in ways that I don't wish to anyone, but I also learned from them.

Healing from them has taken me at least 15 years, and I will keep healing every day of my life.
I just choose to live as a content person, not as a victim.

I am still learning how to heal... Especially how to forgive... Knowing I will never forget...

I've had one monster but he will never be forgiven, and I'm not a bit sorry.

I don't think you have to forgive or forget your monsters, you have to accept and love yourself. You owe it to yourself and no one else.

I had one of those too. She died and I really hope hell exists and she's burning there.

We're taught that we have to be the bigger person, and not hurt other people's feelings and all that crap. That makes us forget about ourselves and IMO, it shouldn't be.

I've become colder and moved away from people I love because they don't add to my life. I don't think of them anymore, I think of myself and that's all.

You did the right thing and I feel the same way. Mine's dead too, I hope both of ours is in hell together. I didn't see him in years or go to his funeral, he was my dad. I survived, grew strong, and raised happy children. <my husband just brought me a martini!

One of mine is dead as well. Too bad the disgusting prick wasn't actually brought to justice for what happened......

CountryDude89 (11877186) wrote:One of mine is dead as well. Too bad the disgusting prick wasn't actually brought to justice for what happened......

And that's why I hope hell exists!

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:

CountryDude89 (11877186) wrote:One of mine is dead as well. Too bad the disgusting prick wasn't actually brought to justice for what happened......

And that's why I hope hell exists!

i hope it exists as well, earthly justice is way to hit and miss, imo.

CountryDude89 (11877186) wrote:

Quarantined Mata (13429328) wrote:

CountryDude89 (11877186) wrote:One of mine is dead as well. Too bad the disgusting prick wasn't actually brought to justice for what happened......

And that's why I hope hell exists!

i hope it exists as well, earthly justice is way to hit and miss, imo.

I love you both!

Well, mine is still alive...

And karma hits that person several times... It may sound mean, but sometimes I think: Thank God I am still alive and can be witness of karma's work...

And about forgiveness: It is more to give it a place and move on... Since I got my grandchildren, I changed a lot. I want them to have grandma who always smiles , sings for them and plays with them... I don't want them to have grandma who is bitter all the time...If I stayed bitter about past, that would ruin my future and future of my kids...

Big respect for all people who survived their monsters and were able to move on.

Denna (10205906) wrote:Well, mine is still alive...

And karma hits that person several times... It may sound mean, but sometimes I think: Thank God I am still alive and can be witness of karma's work...

And about forgiveness: It is more to give it a place and move on... Since I got my grandchildren, I changed a lot. I want them to have grandma who always smiles , sings for them and plays with them... I don't want them to have grandma who is bitter all the time...If I stayed bitter about past, that would ruin my future and future of my kids...

Big respect for all people who survived their monsters and were able to move on.

Letting go is good!

I feel we all have had monsters in our lives. My sister shows feelings of hate for our mom because of the way she was treated and says she never heard her mom say to her, "I love you." My aunt (my moms sister) died a few months back and I tried everything I could to make it okay for my mom to be at that funeral if she wanted to be there to say goodbye to her sister. Some of my family did not want her there (not even my deceased aunt) because they themselves are/were so full of unhappiness and hate. Infact, I was told to not even tell my mom that her sister had passed away and as far as I know she still does not know. I don't understand all of the hurt and hate these family members have for my mom. Yes, she is not the most affectionate person but has always been there for me and I needed her very much considering I started my lifelong battle with renal failure when I was 6 years old. They simply feel my my mom is a monster/sh***y person and deserves nothing. The fact that family feels this way about family (especially someone that means a lot to me) makes me cry.

Vanessa (185747144) wrote:I feel we all have had monsters in our lives. My sister shows feelings of hate for our mom because of the way she was treated and says she never heard her mom say to her, "I love you." My aunt (my moms sister) died a few months back and I tried everything I could to make it okay for my mom to be at that funeral if she wanted to be there to say goodbye to her sister. Some of my family did not want her there (not even my deceased aunt) because they themselves are/were so full of unhappiness and hate. Infact, I was told to not even tell my mom that her sister had passed away and as far as I know she still does not know. I don't understand all of the hurt and hate these family members have for my mom. Yes, she is not the most affectionate person but has always been there for me and I needed her very much considering I started my lifelong battle with renal failure when I was 6 years old. They simply feel my my mom is a monster/sh***y person and deserves nothing. The fact that family feels this way about family (especially someone that means a lot to me) makes me cry.

I am so sorry

Vanessa (185747144) wrote:I feel we all have had monsters in our lives. My sister shows feelings of hate for our mom because of the way she was treated and says she never heard her mom say to her, "I love you." My aunt (my moms sister) died a few months back and I tried everything I could to make it okay for my mom to be at that funeral if she wanted to be there to say goodbye to her sister. Some of my family did not want her there (not even my deceased aunt) because they themselves are/were so full of unhappiness and hate. Infact, I was told to not even tell my mom that her sister had passed away and as far as I know she still does not know. I don't understand all of the hurt and hate these family members have for my mom. Yes, she is not the most affectionate person but has always been there for me and I needed her very much considering I started my lifelong battle with renal failure when I was 6 years old. They simply feel my my mom is a monster/sh***y person and deserves nothing. The fact that family feels this way about family (especially someone that means a lot to me) makes me cry.

Sorry Vanessa

Vanessa (185747144) wrote:I feel we all have had monsters in our lives. My sister shows feelings of hate for our mom because of the way she was treated and says she never heard her mom say to her, "I love you." My aunt (my moms sister) died a few months back and I tried everything I could to make it okay for my mom to be at that funeral if she wanted to be there to say goodbye to her sister. Some of my family did not want her there (not even my deceased aunt) because they themselves are/were so full of unhappiness and hate. Infact, I was told to not even tell my mom that her sister had passed away and as far as I know she still does not know. I don't understand all of the hurt and hate these family members have for my mom. Yes, she is not the most affectionate person but has always been there for me and I needed her very much considering I started my lifelong battle with renal failure when I was 6 years old. They simply feel my my mom is a monster/sh***y person and deserves nothing. The fact that family feels this way about family (especially someone that means a lot to me) makes me cry.

I've heard this story at least 50 times from different families than yours. It never gets any easier to read or hear about. I hope peace finds you all.

There is one monster that lives inside all people that I find to be worse than them all. It is the one that won't say "I'm sorry". Pride is the driver behind so many unforgiven hurts. It is the monster that will hold a grudge to the end of time. It won't allow a person to heal properly. It won't allow a relationship to exist unless it is on Pride's terms. It will dominate the view someone holds of another person forever. When Pride become more important than a relationship, the relationship is doomed. I've seen it rip marriages and families apart in a moment of time.

There is healthy pride. It's the one that pushes us to be our best. I find that shifting Pride's focus from "what they did to me" to "how can I be a better me" is a highly effective tool in treating the monster. But people have to want it. There's no fixing them once Pride won't allow them to consider anything besides hurt.

Unfortunately I live with 2 narcissist. One has been like that my entire life and the other subtle narcissist but when get older lost the brain cells and became full blown narcissist. They are narcissist because the mother that brought up, married for money and finding she couldn't get any became extreme narcissist. Today I find out most of my belongings were taken and given away, not to the poor but to people who can buy their own. Gives the narcissist a high feeling thinking self generous but actually generous with other people's belongings, things I bought with my own hard earned money. I can't leave so the only way out is to escape in my brain. When I'm zoning out, I'm free.