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Angelic Rose
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Tue Jun 13, 2023 9:34 pm

I know I've been MIA for quite some time. It's been a rough past couple of months. It hurts me to say this, but I feel like if I share my story, perhaps, maybe someone out there might be helped who is in a similar scenario.
My mother was tragically murdered on February 17th, 2023. I was the last person whom she had spoken to on the phone. It was overheard the voice of my mom's killer. I had spoken to her at 12:30 while on my lunch break. I clearly heard him in the background tell her, "Shutup b%^%$!" I sadly did not know that at 4:20, the lady who was the light of my heart, the only mom who I ever truly had and loved (I am adopted), would be gone. The next day, I felt something off. I couldn't put my finger quite on it, but I knew something wasn't right. I told my husband, "I think something's happened to my mom", he told me to wait until Monday. I stubbornly ignored him. I called her apartment complex that she had recently moved to, and they said it looked like she wasn't there. I got worried. I then called the local hospitals inquiring about a Jane Doe or possibility of her name. Nothing. Then, (goodness I hate this part as it hurts), I got the call. The call nobody ever wants to hear. The one from the police. I felt like my body was ripped out of me. I could see myself lying on the bed crying my heart out and I could see my mom lying in the car. I didn't know how or what was happening to me, but I knew I was not in my body at that moment. Please don't think me crazy, I assure you I am not, but that's what occurred. I been struggling with extreme grief on top of trying to deal with my mom's trials. I will be a character witness in November. It's hard. I honored my mom with a drawing of a cat. I call it Debra. So this is a posting (a bit of a cheer me up contest) as I have been so lost, so confused. I rely on my faith in GOD. I met some beautiful people, but I still feel lonely some days. Grief is so weird. You can be surrounded by people and still feel so lonely. :wailing:

I will award one lucky winner a few of my player designed items. I need some cheering up.

JustJo
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Registered: Jun 27, 2009
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Tue Jun 13, 2023 10:22 pm

I knew the reason for your MIA as it was posted-I do not know any words to ease anything or comfort you or make you laugh.
This month 2 days apart I lost my child and husband and the hurt pain sorrow grief is all still fresh inside me-I began a grief bereavement group and just began this what I did learn my first week is

YOU are not the same and that is ok

as for cheering you up I can tell you a true story about my wonderful husband..daughter got sick-they air lifted us to another city, which was huge and I did not know this city very well AND all I took on the chopper was what I had on....so once settled I called my husband and told him to please bring me clothes I have none.
he said ok ok alright bring clothes.

--------------- he arrived on that 5 hour train ride with my other daughter and in this huge suitcase he said I would find my clothes

I looked and inside was all of my top drawers of my dresser which consisted of socks bras and underwear!!!!!!!!!!!!! I said omg no clothes-he said I took what I could in a hurry as he had to pack for himself and my other daughter.
I couldn't believe it not a stich to wear but underclothes,so the nurse came in and I explained things-she brought me some scrubs a toothbrush and toothpaste and deodrant as I had none of these either.

She explained that she understood and had a little laugh-it happens to a lot that come with a child who is sick rather than drive-I felt a little better but I just kept shaking my head looking at my husband who had tried so hard to help and hugged him for getting me enough underclothes to wear for over a month -at the time it wasn't all that funny but looking back at it now makes me laugh-oh how I miss him but I have memories that keep me going.

perhaps this is why I buy 2 or 3 dresses at a time that I like :haha:

bless you and I keep you in my prayers-if you ever need a pair of knickers or a knock off bra-I'm your person!!
((((((((((((((((((((((((((AngelicRose)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm glad you are finding ways to get cheered up-this group of people where there for me and I am certain the same will be for you-oh and I have slips too if ya ever want them. :heart:

Chris
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Tue Jun 13, 2023 11:15 pm

I'm so sorry to hear this, i can't imagine the grief you feel right now :sad:

I hope you recover soon and come back stronger, take it slow and don't forget to be kind and gentle to yourself :heart:

God bless you, my prayers and condolences for you :rose:

IWuzADorkyNoobsta
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Registered: Sep 10, 2009
Posts: 1248

Wed Jun 14, 2023 12:32 am

Oh my goodness, I am so so sorry to hear this..

There is nothing I can say or do to take this pain away, nor can I say I understand what you are going through in the slightest.
Please, just remember to take time for yourself, as I can imagine this is the most traumatic experience you will likely go through. Just take time for YOU, and as much as you need.

The whole of Yo is here for you :heart:

PepsiAddict
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Posts: 3761

Wed Jun 14, 2023 10:07 am

Oh dear lord, oh my god darlin. PLEASE tell me you're talking to someone about this. A grief counselor, a therapist, someone. The last thing you need is to shoulder this alone, as it could come out in so many ways, depression, PTSD, panic attacks. I understand you're going to be a witness in your mothers case, but you can still speak with a therapist. Don't listen to people who tell you to just 'be strong' or 'find things to take your mind off it' or anything that would lead you away from how you truly feel. My therapist tells me, "You need to feel how you feel or you're not going to heal" and the best way to do this is with a 3rd party who isn't involved so you won't have to worry about holding back or watching what you say.

Also, It doesn't matter that you were adopted, because you were chosen, you were picked out "just the right size", perfect 'off the rack', be proud of that. The love is exactly the same both ways, and the hurt is as well.

I don't know what else to say, what you've gone through is just, I have no words. Just keep in mind, there are many people here behind these bobble-heads who care, and are here for you. Various time zones, someone's always going to be around.

:hug:

PepsiAddict
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Wed Jun 14, 2023 10:13 am

JustJo (106622274) wrote:I knew the reason for your MIA as it was posted-I do not know any words to ease anything or comfort you or make you laugh.
This month 2 days apart I lost my child and husband and the hurt pain sorrow grief is all still fresh inside me-I began a grief bereavement group and just began this what I did learn my first week is

YOU are not the same and that is ok

as for cheering you up I can tell you a true story about my wonderful husband..daughter got sick-they air lifted us to another city, which was huge and I did not know this city very well AND all I took on the chopper was what I had on....so once settled I called my husband and told him to please bring me clothes I have none.
he said ok ok alright bring clothes.

--------------- he arrived on that 5 hour train ride with my other daughter and in this huge suitcase he said I would find my clothes

I looked and inside was all of my top drawers of my dresser which consisted of socks bras and underwear!!!!!!!!!!!!! I said omg no clothes-he said I took what I could in a hurry as he had to pack for himself and my other daughter.
I couldn't believe it not a stich to wear but underclothes,so the nurse came in and I explained things-she brought me some scrubs a toothbrush and toothpaste and deodrant as I had none of these either.

She explained that she understood and had a little laugh-it happens to a lot that come with a child who is sick rather than drive-I felt a little better but I just kept shaking my head looking at my husband who had tried so hard to help and hugged him for getting me enough underclothes to wear for over a month -at the time it wasn't all that funny but looking back at it now makes me laugh-oh how I miss him but I have memories that keep me going.

perhaps this is why I buy 2 or 3 dresses at a time that I like

bless you and I keep you in my prayers-if you ever need a pair of knickers or a knock off bra-I'm your person!!
((((((((((((((((((((((((((AngelicRose)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm glad you are finding ways to get cheered up-this group of people where there for me and I am certain the same will be for you-oh and I have slips too if ya ever want them.

Oh my goodness Jo that's such a sweet and funny memory. It's good that you have those! And.... such a GUY thing lol such a GUY thing to do, lolol. I'm very glad you found a group. and it seems to be helping, which is just the best to hope for. I'm glad it's working for you. :hug:

Michaela
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Wed Jun 14, 2023 11:38 am

im so sorry for your loss, it is very brave of you to share your story and come onto yoworld to do a contest when you are grieving.

MaryB
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Wed Jun 14, 2023 12:39 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.. :sad:

I got to know about this from your son and have been keeping you in my mind.. Sending you prayers for you to heal as well as my condolences.. :rose:

Take your time and like the others said, know that you have a whole community here supporting you.. :heart:

Angelic Rose
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Wed Jun 14, 2023 5:24 pm

And yes, I have a grief support group. It is helping me. I also have befriended many people on my strange journey since my mom was murdered. I met wonderful people and those who cared about mom and now me. I met a wonderful neighbor of mom's who is now a dear friend. I met a wonderful coworker who is my work bestie. I have met people who say I look identical to my late mom. They also say I have her smile and her same spirit. I believe that. Some days are better than others. You take it slow.

People as me how I am doing and I say, as good as can be expected. That is honest. I cannot say fine, nor can i say bad. Sometimes the days are amazing. Sometimes, they are heartbreaking. I don't know what the days hold. I go with it like the waves of the ocean.

dianabanana
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Wed Jun 14, 2023 8:08 pm

i am at a total loss for words, angela. i'm very happy you've found a grief group. when my mom died unexpectedly in 1995 i don't think i'd still be here without my grief group. i will add you to my night time prayers. and i believe deeply and strongly in prayer.

XxAngiexX
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Thu Jun 15, 2023 11:57 am

I am also an Angela. :heart:

I hope you are starting to heal. That a very tramatic experence.
I was the last one with my brother in law before he died. I went home and he got in an accident on the way back staying out later than I did. He wanted me to go with him and I said no. I was the one home when the police came to alert us. I just lost the person that raised me as a father figure as well less than a yr ago. I was his only care, it was rough at the end.
The guilt is tough and the loss on top of it. I took 2 yrs off the game then another 6 months not too long ago.
Do not blame yourself and practice self care. Feel free to pm me if you ever need to talk.
I can't imagine what your going though, it harder than either of those events I just went though and that was tough.
You are incredibly strong and just remember to be kind to yourself and lean on us if you need to.
It really is just waves of emotions and very unpredictable. I am glad you found a support group <3
Your avi looks beautiful btw <3
Thank you for updating us and if I can do anything plz reach out <3
It good your getting back to the game.
If you make a list of items you missed durning the time you didn't play ff to send it to me and I will check and send what I have <3
<<<<< Big Huggies>>>>>>

SharElle
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Posts: 111

Thu Jun 15, 2023 3:35 pm

Omg, I am so sorry for your loss. What a heart wrenching story and traumatic thing to go through. Im glad you reached out to tell us what happend to you. To me Yoworld is like this huge extended family, and many in here have shown me support for grief or painful times I have experienced. My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers. Sending my thoughts and hugs to you. :heartbroken:

SamiSpiffy23
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Posts: 110636

Thu Jun 15, 2023 8:38 pm

Oh Gosh

I can't imagine the grief and pain you're going through. That's incredibly tragic & traumatic

I don't know what gives an evil person the right to take another innocent's person's life. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
You are important to me and I'm always here if you ever need to talk to someone.
I hope you find some peace today.
:sad:

BEANS
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Thu Jun 15, 2023 9:14 pm

oh!!!!!! so sorry and omg such a heartbreaking story of her death. this is just way too much :sad:

what u r going through. lots of prayers, hugs and love.

Sara YoVirgo
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Thu Jun 15, 2023 9:34 pm

Losing my mom was the hardest thing ever. I pray whoever did this your mom rots in He@@. Feel free to message me at any time if you want to talk.

Sheila
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Thu Jun 15, 2023 11:52 pm

I am so sorry for all of this, this is such a horrible tragedy. I cannot even begin to imagine the intense pain you must be feeling. Big hugs to you. :heart:

Sealine
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Fri Jun 16, 2023 7:38 am

My heart is breaking for you. I am so sorry that have suffered such a devastating loss at the hands of another. I imagine the circumstances make processing and dealing with this loss infinitely harder. And having to be character witness in an upcoming trial, I wish you strength in getting through that. I am glad to read you do have a grief support group as well as others in your life who are supporting you and reminding you to take care of yourself.

We are here as you need us, as much or as little as you need in your own time. :heart:

Angelic Rose
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Posts: 14572

Sat Jun 17, 2023 8:15 am

Through random name generator, and because I am still getting the hang of remembering how to do a screen shot on a dell computer, I typed in the person's name, and they are....

JustJO

JustJo
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Registered: Jun 27, 2009
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Sat Jun 17, 2023 12:00 pm

((((((((((((((AngelicRose)))))))))))))))) bless you! and thank you so much for hosting this!!! please know your family is in my prayers :hug:

SamiSpiffy23
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Wed Jun 21, 2023 1:29 pm

Congratulations Justjo :hug: