Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:The last few minutes I've been thinking about how I'd respond here after everything that has happened in the last few months and how immoral it would be to ignore this thread like it doesn't exist. I've exchanged a couple of PMs with Miss T who i wanna thank for being unapologetically brutally honest and transparent with me, there was no sugarcoating and she said it exactly like it is. This is a sensitive topic and involves a lot of very kind people but there's no room for pride or half-apologies, when you're wrong you're wrong, and saying I was only wrong is an understatement as to what happened.

I've hurt and caused agony to a lot of people in a particular thread and in various events which followed as reactions started to grow, I was not on my best behavior that day and should have known better than to act like a complete irresponsible assshole. I am constantly growing and trying to learn from my mistakes and yet nothing justifies my rudeness and immoral behavior towards everyone involved. All I can say is I am deeply sorry for being so inconsiderate and hurtful, I know better now and I'm more aware of how many battles each one of you is facing and how much damage vile acts like mine can leave in someone's life. I hope there's enough time to try to mend things and this is my problem now, because i strongly believe in "What goes around comes around" and being stubborn thinking i'm right only means this will catch up with me soon when least expected and i definitely don't want to meet that one version of me which showed up in that thread at any point in my life.

To all the people I've hurt, it would have been more appropriate to name you but because of the Forums rules, I can't. I have also learned that around the time it all happened some of you were dealing with major health concerns in your real life and i'm so sorry about that too. By no means saying "Sorry" means I paid my dues and life is good again, I need to look back for a very long time before i can start looking forward again, and i hope you can forgive me at some point in the future, this is barely the start of a realistic critical approach and learning that too much pride is a disastrous thing. There's so much life and emotions behind the Avatar, this is something I need to constantly remind myself of before reacting in the future. I hope you overcome all your struggles, big and small, and win all your battles even if it meant waking up to face another day, so many of you I admire and can learn plenty of things from on how to cope and be strong. I'm sorry that this was a long read but everything said has been on my mind since then and i'm glad someone created this opportunity for me to say these things.

You all take care, and have an outstanding weekend.

You have never done me wrong and in truth I miss hanging out with you but life does get in the way and we tend to be online at different times... Honestly I think I have been an annoying friend to you and if I have I am sorry... I lost a friend for a really dumb reason (not you) and it still hurts to this day but people come and go and we have to get used to this. I've always considered you a close friend and when I came back to this game you were one of the first people to welcome me back. I remember when I first saw you at Altons when I was gaming and I came on here and was like "I saw you!" and soon after that we added each other in the game and eventually on Twitter too! I'm glad I have a friend like you even though as of lately we've kind of grown apart but I will never ever throw away our friendship no matter how far apart we grow! I miss you and I hope you are well. *Huggles*

MsPhantom (129173078) wrote:I had been debating with myself back and forth over whether to post on this thread or not and what I could cover in my post. I understand that I can be very hostile and negative on this forum and that my negativity and rudeness has impacted a few individuals who did not do anything to deserve it. I do not feel comfortable confronting them publicly so I'll do it privately instead.

In the summertime, I got on a forumer's bad side over some irrelevant nonsense and this person made it their obligation to consistently be so horrible to me with actions that still continue to this day. The other individual would deny this or spin the situation around on me but what I've said is true. Anyway, the experience effected me deeply and made me very hostile, cynical, and negative towards others here on this forum. I felt very hated and unwelcomed and I did something that I should not have done. I took the horrible treatment by another and treated people who were not even involved in the situation rudely. Those people did not deserve that and I am so ashamed to have taken my anger out on them. I am so completely sorry to those people for my behavior.

Anyway, I have my settings set to receive private messages. If you have ever been involved in a conflict with me or experienced hostility in any way, send me a private message so that we can talk through things and work things out. I dislike tension and hostility with anyone and would love to get rid of any existing

MsPhantom (129173078) wrote:I had been debating with myself back and forth over whether to post on this thread or not and what I could cover in my post. I understand that I can be very hostile and negative on this forum and that my negativity and rudeness has impacted a few individuals who did not do anything to deserve it. I do not feel comfortable confronting them publicly so I'll do it privately instead.

In the summertime, I got on a forumer's bad side over some irrelevant nonsense and this person made it their obligation to consistently be so horrible to me with actions that still continue to this day. The other individual would deny this or spin the situation around on me but what I've said is true. Anyway, the experience effected me deeply and made me very hostile, cynical, and negative towards others here on this forum. I felt very hated and unwelcomed and I did something that I should not have done. I took the horrible treatment by another and treated people who were not even involved in the situation rudely. Those people did not deserve that and I am so ashamed to have taken my anger out on them. I am so completely sorry to those people for my behavior.

Anyway, I have my settings set to receive private messages. If you have ever been involved in a conflict with me or experienced hostility in any way, send me a private message so that we can talk through things and work things out. I dislike tension and hostility with anyone and would love to get rid of any existing

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

MsPhantom (129173078) wrote:I had been debating with myself back and forth over whether to post on this thread or not and what I could cover in my post. I understand that I can be very hostile and negative on this forum and that my negativity and rudeness has impacted a few individuals who did not do anything to deserve it. I do not feel comfortable confronting them publicly so I'll do it privately instead.

In the summertime, I got on a forumer's bad side over some irrelevant nonsense and this person made it their obligation to consistently be so horrible to me with actions that still continue to this day. The other individual would deny this or spin the situation around on me but what I've said is true. Anyway, the experience effected me deeply and made me very hostile, cynical, and negative towards others here on this forum. I felt very hated and unwelcomed and I did something that I should not have done. I took the horrible treatment by another and treated people who were not even involved in the situation rudely. Those people did not deserve that and I am so ashamed to have taken my anger out on them. I am so completely sorry to those people for my behavior.

Anyway, I have my settings set to receive private messages. If you have ever been involved in a conflict with me or experienced hostility in any way, send me a private message so that we can talk through things and work things out. I dislike tension and hostility with anyone and would love to get rid of any existing

You hurt one of my dearest friends and all I see are excuses. Thanks for trying? I will forgive when I see sincerity.

Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:This is truly a beautiful thread and I thank Miss T for starting it. The internet is such an odd thing...so much can be read or misconstrued in just a few typed words. No body language to offset a joke. No familiarity to remind us that we all have 'off' days or have things that 'trigger' us.

I hope I have not unintentionally offended anyone here over the last few years. We all are here, day after day, week after week, year after year because we have not only found joy in this game but a 'family' we care about.

Thank you, Miss T, for reminding me what Yo is truly about.

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:No, I can't think of one person I've wronged on these forums, so I can't really throw out a name. But, I like the idea of this Miss T and good luck with it...

Denna (10205906) wrote::heart: First I want to say thank you MissT for this thread. Second, please bare with me, I am nog at home, I am typing on my phone.
Where to start? At beginning I guess. People who know me, know I am person who looks for fun and joy here. To be honest, I got envolved in few personal fights and that was my big mistake! Few people brought their personal fights here on forum and before thinking twice, I defended someone and took the side. Then one of these persons attacked one friend of mine. That friend of mine is dearest person I met here and many people agreed hè is a great young man. This fight escalated and I became someone I am not! Like in real life, I always try to find good in people, I always try to be nice to everyone. I had very difficult past, Some of you know that. My life is: one good day, two bad days, but I always try not to react it on other people. My small and big fights in life I am fighting with support from my family and few dear friends. Here at forums I met Some very nice people and I am glad to have them in my Yolife. I regret few fights here, it was not me. It was someone who jumped into fights of others without thinking: Why am I doing this. After Some other problems with few forumers, outside this forum, I decided to ignore them. I don’t want to continue fights with them and boring it here. I have decided to keep in touch with people who have something nice to say and with people who make me smile. Belive me, I hate rudeness, cinism and sacasm. The people who use it often van expect I Will ignore them. I promissed myself, I am not going to bite into any provoke post here. I asked Some people to not quote me, thinking I am writing about them. IfI have something to tell you, I Will tell you. Please don’t search for secret meaning in my posts. With me, it is: you het what you see. So...Few msg for few people.
1: I was not throwing shadow on you ( you know who you are And your friend deleted me after 10 years because of nothing. And all that because we desagreed on some subject. What a pitty.
2: I considered you as good buddy, then you turned into someone else after bad things happend to you. Remember, I asked you what happend with “old” you, you told me this: she died...And you was rude to many people and you was rude to me.
3. You defended person above (. Nr. 2) attacked me, called me passive agressive and who knows what else.. I choose to ignore you and your cinical posts, because I didn’t want to fight. I want to say, I liked you. I never Saïd any bad word to you. I have never done anything to reserve your behavior towards me.
4. You used my weakness to fight your personal fights. When all stuff happend outside this forums, I told you to stop silly fights and childish games. Now I wish I never came inbetween. My big mistake! Leasson learned.
5. You defended your friend without knowing what hè has done on this forum. I liked you before that and I am almost sure you liked me too. I attacked you, defending the best person on this forum. I don’t regret THAT. We both got punished...I hope we can move further.
6. You hurted many people on this forum. You hurted my dear friend, you hurted me. You sent me PM via someone else. Here is the deal: If my dear friend forgive you, I Will forgive you too.

I apologize for fighting few fights of others in the past. To me, friend is big word. If you are my friend, my buddy, I am honest, you can trust me and I am ready to listen. It is never my intention to hurt people, it is not my intention to be rude. If I hurted you because I defended friend or buddy who dont deserve to be defended. I apologize If I can’t express my opinion and people turn my words into something bad.

Sorry for long post. I belive this is my longest post in 10 years of playing this game.
I reallifesoap hope this thread can stay, we need it.

Miss TiFied (8432514) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:No, I can't think of one person I've wronged on these forums, so I can't really throw out a name. But, I like the idea of this Miss T and good luck with it...

Tysm Mr E

The 'truth' bit is about people telling their truth (hopefully, without judgement) and the 'reconciliation' part is about potential

This thread wasn't started to facilitate the re-ignition and continuance of past conflicts - that was farthest from my mind when I started it. I should maybe have considered it as a real possibility though........however I still believe it's good that it exists.

I was hoping this might be cathartic and something for us all to learn from - I will personally thank everyone who has the courage to come in and 'share'

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:So, my name is Matt, I'm 59 years old and I have a lovely wife and a grown daughter. In the past, I was worried about my account being hacked, but have since put protections in place where that's no longer a worry for me. Because I don't need to use disinformation anymore to protect my account, I wanted to set the record straight since that's closer to my true nature.

I know as I write this some will care, some won't. Some will understand, some won't. Some will accept, some won't. There's nothing I can do about that, but what I'd like is to go forward if possible with your blessing and show you who I am--up to a point. This is still the internet, and I'm not going to let you know my social security number, date of birth and mother's maiden name lol...

Miss TiFied (8432514) wrote:

Smitten Kitten (136864592) wrote:This is truly a beautiful thread and I thank Miss T for starting it. The internet is such an odd thing...so much can be read or misconstrued in just a few typed words. No body language to offset a joke. No familiarity to remind us that we all have 'off' days or have things that 'trigger' us.

I hope I have not unintentionally offended anyone here over the last few years. We all are here, day after day, week after week, year after year because we have not only found joy in this game but a 'family' we care about.

Thank you, Miss T, for reminding me what Yo is truly about.

Tysm Smitten

Your conduct on this forum has been exemplary since I've been a member, and I'm pretty sure it was prior to my arrival too. We would do well to follow the example you set, even though we might get it wrong sometimes.

The road to success is rarely linear

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:

Miss TiFied (8432514) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:No, I can't think of one person I've wronged on these forums, so I can't really throw out a name. But, I like the idea of this Miss T and good luck with it...

Tysm Mr E

The 'truth' bit is about people telling their truth (hopefully, without judgement) and the 'reconciliation' part is about potential

This thread wasn't started to facilitate the re-ignition and continuance of past conflicts - that was farthest from my mind when I started it. I should maybe have considered it as a real possibility though........however I still believe it's good that it exists.

I was hoping this might be cathartic and something for us all to learn from - I will personally thank everyone who has the courage to come in and 'share'

Ah yes. It seems some conflict has been started. But the best laid plans of mice and men right? So, I guess we'll have to hope for the best...

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:So, my name is Matt, I'm 59 years old and I have a lovely wife and a grown daughter. In the past, I was worried about my account being hacked, but have since put protections in place where that's no longer a worry for me. Because I don't need to use disinformation anymore to protect my account, I wanted to set the record straight since that's closer to my true nature.

I know as I write this some will care, some won't. Some will understand, some won't. Some will accept, some won't. There's nothing I can do about that, but what I'd like is to go forward if possible with your blessing and show you who I am--up to a point. This is still the internet, and I'm not going to let you know my social security number, date of birth and mother's maiden name lol...

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:So, my name is Matt, I'm 59 years old and I have a lovely wife and a grown daughter. In the past, I was worried about my account being hacked, but have since put protections in place where that's no longer a worry for me. Because I don't need to use disinformation anymore to protect my account, I wanted to set the record straight since that's closer to my true nature.

I know as I write this some will care, some won't. Some will understand, some won't. Some will accept, some won't. There's nothing I can do about that, but what I'd like is to go forward if possible with your blessing and show you who I am--up to a point. This is still the internet, and I'm not going to let you know my social security number, date of birth and mother's maiden name lol...

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:The last few minutes I've been thinking about how I'd respond here after everything that has happened in the last few months and how immoral it would be to ignore this thread like it doesn't exist. I've exchanged a couple of PMs with Miss T who i wanna thank for being unapologetically brutally honest and transparent with me, there was no sugarcoating and she said it exactly like it is. This is a sensitive topic and involves a lot of very kind people but there's no room for pride or half-apologies, when you're wrong you're wrong, and saying I was only wrong is an understatement as to what happened.

I've hurt and caused agony to a lot of people in a particular thread and in various events which followed as reactions started to grow, I was not on my best behavior that day and should have known better than to act like a complete irresponsible assshole. I am constantly growing and trying to learn from my mistakes and yet nothing justifies my rudeness and immoral behavior towards everyone involved. All I can say is I am deeply sorry for being so inconsiderate and hurtful, I know better now and I'm more aware of how many battles each one of you is facing and how much damage vile acts like mine can leave in someone's life. I hope there's enough time to try to mend things and this is my problem now, because i strongly believe in "What goes around comes around" and being stubborn thinking i'm right only means this will catch up with me soon when least expected and i definitely don't want to meet that one version of me which showed up in that thread at any point in my life.

To all the people I've hurt, it would have been more appropriate to name you but because of the Forums rules, I can't. I have also learned that around the time it all happened some of you were dealing with major health concerns in your real life and i'm so sorry about that too. By no means saying "Sorry" means I paid my dues and life is good again, I need to look back for a very long time before i can start looking forward again, and i hope you can forgive me at some point in the future, this is barely the start of a realistic critical approach and learning that too much pride is a disastrous thing. There's so much life and emotions behind the Avatar, this is something I need to constantly remind myself of before reacting in the future. I hope you overcome all your struggles, big and small, and win all your battles even if it meant waking up to face another day, so many of you I admire and can learn plenty of things from on how to cope and be strong. I'm sorry that this was a long read but everything said has been on my mind since then and i'm glad someone created this opportunity for me to say these things.

You all take care, and have an outstanding weekend.

Nick! You don't know how many times I've wanted to agree with your posts and say something nice. I have been stubbornly holding a grudge that I am so happy to let go of! Thanks for your kind words!

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:

Miss TiFied (8432514) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:No, I can't think of one person I've wronged on these forums, so I can't really throw out a name. But, I like the idea of this Miss T and good luck with it...

Tysm Mr E

The 'truth' bit is about people telling their truth (hopefully, without judgement) and the 'reconciliation' part is about potential

This thread wasn't started to facilitate the re-ignition and continuance of past conflicts - that was farthest from my mind when I started it. I should maybe have considered it as a real possibility though........however I still believe it's good that it exists.

I was hoping this might be cathartic and something for us all to learn from - I will personally thank everyone who has the courage to come in and 'share'

Ah yes. It seems some conflict has been started. But the best laid plans of mice and men right? So, I guess we'll have to hope for the best...

And that was me. I apologize, I should have sat on my hands, sometimes I speak without thinking. I am sorry, wish I could take it back.

Erwyle, I thought you were a young man! Your posts make more sense now that I know we are about the same age.

Denna (10205906) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:So, my name is Matt, I'm 59 years old and I have a lovely wife and a grown daughter. In the past, I was worried about my account being hacked, but have since put protections in place where that's no longer a worry for me. Because I don't need to use disinformation anymore to protect my account, I wanted to set the record straight since that's closer to my true nature.

I know as I write this some will care, some won't. Some will understand, some won't. Some will accept, some won't. There's nothing I can do about that, but what I'd like is to go forward if possible with your blessing and show you who I am--up to a point. This is still the internet, and I'm not going to let you know my social security number, date of birth and mother's maiden name lol...

I care If you remember, I supported you when many forumers turned against you. I came into game and asked you to stay, to not leave game. I am glad you stayed. To be honest, I knew there was something about you...But, I don't judge, you had your reasons. You was always kind to ME ,so opinion of others couldn't change mine. I consider you as buddy and from my side, it can stay that way. Thanks for telling the truth.

Robyn VIP (8132649) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:

Miss TiFied (8432514) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:No, I can't think of one person I've wronged on these forums, so I can't really throw out a name. But, I like the idea of this Miss T and good luck with it...

Tysm Mr E

The 'truth' bit is about people telling their truth (hopefully, without judgement) and the 'reconciliation' part is about potential

This thread wasn't started to facilitate the re-ignition and continuance of past conflicts - that was farthest from my mind when I started it. I should maybe have considered it as a real possibility though........however I still believe it's good that it exists.

I was hoping this might be cathartic and something for us all to learn from - I will personally thank everyone who has the courage to come in and 'share'

Ah yes. It seems some conflict has been started. But the best laid plans of mice and men right? So, I guess we'll have to hope for the best...

And that was me. I apologize, I should have sat on my hands, sometimes I speak without thinking. I am sorry, wish I could take it back.

Erwyle, I thought you were a young man! Your posts make more sense now that I know we are about the same age.

Nick Blade (187030201) wrote:

Erwyle (187240896) wrote:So, my name is Matt, I'm 59 years old and I have a lovely wife and a grown daughter. In the past, I was worried about my account being hacked, but have since put protections in place where that's no longer a worry for me. Because I don't need to use disinformation anymore to protect my account, I wanted to set the record straight since that's closer to my true nature.

I know as I write this some will care, some won't. Some will understand, some won't. Some will accept, some won't. There's nothing I can do about that, but what I'd like is to go forward if possible with your blessing and show you who I am--up to a point. This is still the internet, and I'm not going to let you know my social security number, date of birth and mother's maiden name lol...

I think it's troublesome to some people (no one on the Forums just in general) to believe that you can be a male or a female with a healthy lifestyle and still play this game. Plenty of times I had to respond to accusations like "If you are who you claim to be why do you spend so much time on Yo? You must be a Momma's basement boy" I mean