Moxii (105074356) wrote:While I agree that there are way better things to focus on in life than the negative, I still have a hard time putting on those Rose Colored Glasses. My sister's a Pollyanna...always wearing those shades, and I see how hard a time she has dealing with life.
I'm a realist and see things for what they are...good and bad.
I'll have to try the whole post 3 positive things a day for a few days. I've seen my FB friends doing it and thought I should too. There are just some days, it's hard to find even 3 things. lol

It was hard to find the three positives each day!.... I am a realist and I know things dont always have a rosy glow, but sometimes its nice to try and focus on the good happy things instead of going over and over the bad. I went a week without posting negative stuff on my FB and it damn near killed me!!!

Autumn Glory (105171200) wrote:

Voldesnort (3054329) wrote:

Lainie (124009750) wrote:
I tried to be Pollyanna when I was young... but I couldn't find a crystal that would make enough rainbows to make Auld Granny smile...

I imagine Auld Granny would smile when you listened to her folk remedies and hung onion socks around your neck! I dont know her, but I think she sounds incredibly interesting and a wee bit scary!!

Still laugh about those onion socks.....

Yep... those socks still haunt me...

Adeline (113719515) wrote:

sharniy (114135) wrote:

Adeline (113719515) wrote:We do have Pollyannas on the forum. I prefer people with a more realistic attitude, And Veronica, you described her perfectly.

Those with a realistic attitude focus on transformation. Memento More.

maybe you should read the book ive never seen you post a nice thing yet

Really? I consider your remark a personal attack that has nothing to do with this thread. Just letting you know.

oh good grief...wheres your like of realistic attitude now??

Voldesnort (3054329) wrote:

Moxii (105074356) wrote:While I agree that there are way better things to focus on in life than the negative, I still have a hard time putting on those Rose Colored Glasses. My sister's a Pollyanna...always wearing those shades, and I see how hard a time she has dealing with life.
I'm a realist and see things for what they are...good and bad.
I'll have to try the whole post 3 positive things a day for a few days. I've seen my FB friends doing it and thought I should too. There are just some days, it's hard to find even 3 things. lol

It was hard to find the three positives each day!.... I am a realist and I know things dont always have a rosy glow, but sometimes its nice to try and focus on the good happy things instead of going over and over the bad. I went a week without posting negative stuff on my FB and it damn near killed me!!!

I loved your positive posts!! They made me smile every day.

Voldesnort (3054329) wrote:

Moxii (105074356) wrote:While I agree that there are way better things to focus on in life than the negative, I still have a hard time putting on those Rose Colored Glasses. My sister's a Pollyanna...always wearing those shades, and I see how hard a time she has dealing with life.
I'm a realist and see things for what they are...good and bad.
I'll have to try the whole post 3 positive things a day for a few days. I've seen my FB friends doing it and thought I should too. There are just some days, it's hard to find even 3 things. lol

It was hard to find the three positives each day!.... I am a realist and I know things dont always have a rosy glow, but sometimes its nice to try and focus on the good happy things instead of going over and over the bad. I went a week without posting negative stuff on my FB and it damn near killed me!!!

I know you did... I felt your angst... heheheh But you did it. Well done.
It's not an unrealistic thing to do.

Kat Otter (9555016) wrote:

Adeline (113719515) wrote:

sharniy (114135) wrote:

maybe you should read the book ive never seen you post a nice thing yet

Really? I consider your remark a personal attack that has nothing to do with this thread. Just letting you know.

oh good grief...wheres your like of realistic attitude now??

It seems that some only like it when its being dished on their terms, I guess.

Hot Rod (126579776) wrote:The Power Of Positive Posting

I've found that when I focus on problems, there are more problems. When I focus on what is ok, there are less issues. I don't know what the mind trick is that does this or why we are programmed this way, but it works like a mofo. It is the same way in life. I find people who look for the good, usually enjoy their lives way more than those who see all that is wrong. And often times they are facing the exact same challenges.

Rod... well put. We can but try... thank you

Hot Rod (126579776) wrote:The Power Of Positive Posting

I've found that when I focus on problems, there are more problems. When I focus on what is ok, there are less issues. I don't know what the mind trick is that does this or why we are programmed this way, but it works like a mofo. It is the same way in life. I find people who look for the good, usually enjoy their lives way more than those who see all that is wrong. And often times they are facing the exact same challenges.

that's very true Rod

sharniy (114135) wrote:

Hot Rod (126579776) wrote:The Power Of Positive Posting

I've found that when I focus on problems, there are more problems. When I focus on what is ok, there are less issues. I don't know what the mind trick is that does this or why we are programmed this way, but it works like a mofo. It is the same way in life. I find people who look for the good, usually enjoy their lives way more than those who see all that is wrong. And often times they are facing the exact same challenges.

that's very true Rod

Sharniy...

Voldesnort (3054329) wrote:

Moxii (105074356) wrote:While I agree that there are way better things to focus on in life than the negative, I still have a hard time putting on those Rose Colored Glasses. My sister's a Pollyanna...always wearing those shades, and I see how hard a time she has dealing with life.
I'm a realist and see things for what they are...good and bad.
I'll have to try the whole post 3 positive things a day for a few days. I've seen my FB friends doing it and thought I should too. There are just some days, it's hard to find even 3 things. lol

It was hard to find the three positives each day!.... I am a realist and I know things dont always have a rosy glow, but sometimes its nice to try and focus on the good happy things instead of going over and over the bad. I went a week without posting negative stuff on my FB and it damn near killed me!!!

You're the one that's inspired me to try. I will start today.

I like your post and had a smile when I read it. I then realized I just might be a "Pollyanna Poster"! In all seriousness, for me it is not that hard. It really is the way I am at heart. Perspective is the way I tend to look at things and not in any "rosy glasses" kind of way. I have lost more then a few wonderful people in my life, I have seen the depravity, suffering and sadness in the world. Those are the things that are worth getting upset and angry over. Life is much too short for all of us to spend our time stressing and angry over the things that in the end really don't matter all that much.

I am not incapable of getting upset over the smaller things, however, for my own good I refuse to let myself get pulled in that hole. Focus focus on the things that you are grateful and happy about and push out the things that cause you strife! lol All joking aside, I commend you for your efforts. It's not always easy, yet I do believe is is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Much peace <3

Voldesnort (3054329) wrote:Oh, i am glad i am not a bitter woman.. there is my pollyana thought for the day

I loved Pollyanna! The world would be so much better if more people thought as she did. If we look hard enough, we can find positives in just about any situation. If we all dwelled only on our troubles, and never see all the good around us, we would all be miserable.

Adeline (113719515) wrote:We do have Pollyannas on the forum. I prefer people with a more realistic attitude, And Veronica, you described her perfectly.

Those with a realistic attitude focus on transformation. Memento More.

My realism will be different than yours. At times it is guided by emotions. It might not align with your definition, but it does not make it an untruth. However, we gravitate toward those with similar outlooks; hence, your preference for those who have a similar 'realism'. All of a sudden, I feel as though I am talking in circles...

In conclusion, it's all good.

Panic (127710571) wrote:I like your post and had a smile when I read it. I then realized I just might be a "Pollyanna Poster"! In all seriousness, for me it is not that hard. It really is the way I am at heart. Perspective is the way I tend to look at things and not in any "rosy glasses" kind of way. I have lost more then a few wonderful people in my life, I have seen the depravity, suffering and sadness in the world. Those are the things that are worth getting upset and angry over. Life is much too short for all of us to spend our time stressing and angry over the things that in the end really don't matter all that much.

I am not incapable of getting upset over the smaller things, however, for my own good I refuse to let myself get pulled in that hole. Focus focus on the things that you are grateful and happy about and push out the things that cause you strife! lol All joking aside, I commend you for your efforts. It's not always easy, yet I do believe is is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Much peace <3

I actually dont even think its bad to be pollyanna to a degree, really. Its not like she was blinded that reality wasn't so great in front of her. Its more that (like you do) she actively choose to look at a situation in a manner that made reality tolerable in a bigger picture kind of way thing. Its almost a deliberately empowering thing to do, at times.

Panic (127710571) wrote:I like your post and had a smile when I read it. I then realized I just might be a "Pollyanna Poster"! In all seriousness, for me it is not that hard. It really is the way I am at heart. Perspective is the way I tend to look at things and not in any "rosy glasses" kind of way. I have lost more then a few wonderful people in my life, I have seen the depravity, suffering and sadness in the world. Those are the things that are worth getting upset and angry over. Life is much too short for all of us to spend our time stressing and angry over the things that in the end really don't matter all that much.

I am not incapable of getting upset over the smaller things, however, for my own good I refuse to let myself get pulled in that hole. Focus focus on the things that you are grateful and happy about and push out the things that cause you strife! lol All joking aside, I commend you for your efforts. It's not always easy, yet I do believe is is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Much peace <3

Now this makes me smile... we can rise above the negatives - and try to ignore what makes us angry or stressed. I'm so sorry that you have experienced loss and sadness, but as you say, trying to focus on the positives -and perhaps happier times does help.
I get upset too - but I am learning to try... Peace be upon you and yours..

Nyx (12531218) wrote:

Panic (127710571) wrote:I like your post and had a smile when I read it. I then realized I just might be a "Pollyanna Poster"! In all seriousness, for me it is not that hard. It really is the way I am at heart. Perspective is the way I tend to look at things and not in any "rosy glasses" kind of way. I have lost more then a few wonderful people in my life, I have seen the depravity, suffering and sadness in the world. Those are the things that are worth getting upset and angry over. Life is much too short for all of us to spend our time stressing and angry over the things that in the end really don't matter all that much.

I am not incapable of getting upset over the smaller things, however, for my own good I refuse to let myself get pulled in that hole. Focus focus on the things that you are grateful and happy about and push out the things that cause you strife! lol All joking aside, I commend you for your efforts. It's not always easy, yet I do believe is is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Much peace <3

I actually dont even think its bad to be pollyanna to a degree, really. Its not like she was blinded that reality wasn't so great in front of her. Its more that (like you do) she actively choose to look at a situation in a manner that made reality tolerable in a bigger picture kind of way thing. Its almost a deliberately empowering thing to do, at times.

Exactly! If someone chooses to think a "pollyanna type personality" is naive in any way, perhaps, they are the very people who have struggled the most in life or endured a little too much reality, and refuse to let life keep them down. It is a choice how we approach things. Since when did being positive become a negative?

Sometimes being ridiculously positive is the only way to survive the extremely negative.

CooLidge (181519357) wrote:

Adeline (113719515) wrote:We do have Pollyannas on the forum. I prefer people with a more realistic attitude, And Veronica, you described her perfectly.

Those with a realistic attitude focus on transformation. Memento More.

My realism will be different than yours. At times it is guided by emotions. It might not align with your definition, but it does not make it an untruth. However, we gravitate toward those with similar outlooks; hence, your preference for those who have a similar 'realism'. All of a sudden, I feel as though I am talking in circles...

In conclusion, it's all good.

Of course. It all is usually subjective. An experience of real consciousness is a rare thing. However, some people are by nature fact oriented and some are not. My former professions were always fact gathering and my spiritual quest is as well. So yes, I agree with you. I appreciate many types of people but tend to gravitate toward those who are quick thinkers, interested in WHY and have a sense of humor.

Autumn Glory (105171200) wrote:

Nyx (12531218) wrote:

Panic (127710571) wrote:I like your post and had a smile when I read it. I then realized I just might be a "Pollyanna Poster"! In all seriousness, for me it is not that hard. It really is the way I am at heart. Perspective is the way I tend to look at things and not in any "rosy glasses" kind of way. I have lost more then a few wonderful people in my life, I have seen the depravity, suffering and sadness in the world. Those are the things that are worth getting upset and angry over. Life is much too short for all of us to spend our time stressing and angry over the things that in the end really don't matter all that much.

I am not incapable of getting upset over the smaller things, however, for my own good I refuse to let myself get pulled in that hole. Focus focus on the things that you are grateful and happy about and push out the things that cause you strife! lol All joking aside, I commend you for your efforts. It's not always easy, yet I do believe is is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Much peace <3

I actually dont even think its bad to be pollyanna to a degree, really. Its not like she was blinded that reality wasn't so great in front of her. Its more that (like you do) she actively choose to look at a situation in a manner that made reality tolerable in a bigger picture kind of way thing. Its almost a deliberately empowering thing to do, at times.

Exactly! If someone chooses to think a "pollyanna type personality" is naive in any way, perhaps, they are the very people who have struggled the most in life or endured a little too much reality, and refuse to let life keep them down. It is a choice how we approach things. Since when did being positive become a negative?

I would I agree with all the above! I didn't mean to infer that the OP was using the "Pollyanna" reference in a negative way at all. I sure have been told by others (not just on the forum) that my attitude is not realistic. Lol. I think sometimes that positivity can be seen by others as unrealistic or naive. (Blatantly been called that at times). I just wanted to put out there my way of dealing with the negative emotions that we all experience and why I am that way. <3

Edit to add: Everyone make a Pollyanna post right now! I dare you...